Wednesday, March 5, 2008

Trench Update

I am very pleased to inform you that both Levi and Logan have done an excellent job rising to the challenges I extended last week. Logan in particular has completed all his responsibilities with no reminders from mom and has been grounded for de sotto voce backtalking only once.

Today when Logan came home from school, fresh-faced and rosy-cheeked from his invigorating ride through the late winter air, I complimented him on his success. He looked truly pleased with himself. Now, this is a boy who often claims that positive consequences don't really exist. The way he sees it, nothing happens until someone makes a bad choice, and then negative consequences are divvied out immediately. So I took this opportunity to point out how good he and I both feel right now. He did his duty before school and spent the day happily anticipating a leisurely afternoon of friends and computer. And when he got home, his mother greeted him not with demands and reminders, but with an open invitation to enjoy his free time.


I said, "This is a positive consequence. It's not a lollipop--but it feels good!" And he agreed.

3 comments:

  1. Awesome...cause the tree falling makes no noise when there is nobody there to hear it...

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  2. Congratulations to both of you! What a great success story.

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  3. Well done. I guess misery sometimes pays off in the end.

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